Trust Your Intuition. It Doesn’t Lie.

Spouse Cheating - AffairIn over 1/3 of marriages, one or both partners admit to cheating. Affairs are most likely to occur two years into a marriage and people who have cheated before are 350% more likely to cheat again (Trustify, Infidelity Statistics 2017).

Cheating is a terrible thing. It is a huge challenge for any marriage. There are numerous reasons as to why someone would cheat while in a committed relationship. Not that there are any legitimate reasons but some include sexual dissatisfaction, sexual incompatibility, emotional dissatisfaction, etc. The bottom line is that no one wants to get cheated on. But instead of exploring why someone would cheat, what about those warning signs? What about that feeling deep down inside that’s telling you something is off? Like going outside to take a phone call or internet history always cleared out on the computer at home? Intuition never lies. That funny feeling you feel inside may be the very thing you need to find proof or hard evidence. Certain behaviors and/or signs just simply cannot be ignored.

Here are some warning signs that a spouse may be cheating on you:

  • Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids or with life in general
  • Your spouse seems to want more thrill in his/her life
  • There is considerably less intimacy or connection in your relationship.
  • Your sex life is practically non-existent
  • Or, there are lot’s of new things introduced into sex that were never before
  • Your spouse has a low self-esteem
  • Your spouse doesn’t show any jealousy about you, no matter what you say
  • You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about him or her self
  • Your spouse has become lazy, especially around the house
  • Your spouse is more negative
  • Your spouse becomes more critical of you
  • Your spouse seems to be picking fights more often
  • You can’t get your spouse to communicate with you (stonewalling)
  • Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs
  • Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual
  • Your mate is working longer hours at work
  • Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer or there is a sudden interest in appearance
  • You notice charges on credit card statement that don’t make sense
  • You are aware of different scents of cologne or after shave lotion on your spouse’s clothes
  • Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays
  • You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things
  • Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you
  • The words “I love you” are not spoken by your spouse any longer
  • He/she doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore
  • You can’t even get your mate to fight with you
  • You feel as if you are being avoided
  • Your partner abandons religion or spiritual faith
  • Your spouse seems very secretive
  • You discover lipstick smudge on shirt
  • You learn that you have an STD and you have not strayed or cheated
  • When you ask for reassurance about cheating, you do not feel satisfied with the response

There is a good chance that your intuition is sensing that unfaithfulness is taking place. Whether it be physical or emotional, you should be especially concerned if your gut feelings are not normally like you. If you keep getting denial and “push-back” when trying to discuss your concerns with your partner, you may need to get professional help to sort through this. Or, it is time to get that hard evidence! Even if you’re contemplating getting a separation or divorce, Myrtle Beach Private Investigators is here to help.